Monday, May 2, 2011

Victimized

Have you ever felt like you were wronged? That you were truly in the right, but made out to look like the bad guy. You run the situation over and over in your head and reach the same conclusion. You really handled this situation correctly. You over extended yourself to be the better person, but instead of appreciation for all of your efforts. You are met with disdain and contempt. You find someone twisting the story to make you look bad. What do you do?

Maybe you messed up in the past, but you swore to yourself that this time it would be different. However after all of your efforts your are under appreciated, disrespected and maybe even slandered. You find yourself with two options 1) fight for your honor 2)take the high road and deal with the pain inwardly. If you fight back you still look like the bad guy. If you hold it in then anger and resentment builds up within you. It is a catch 22.

What do you do? Choice 1 may not bring closure even if you make a fool out of yourself it may make things worse . Choice 2 is sure to eat you up inside.

Gosh it is so unfair you say to yourself. This is your reward for your efforts.

You are victimized … Which really sucks because maybe you had just recovered from victim syndrome and as soon as you found yourself healing from the past experience you found yourself once more as the victim.

So what do you do to help ease the pain and resentment?
1) Listen to every single angry song you own…(some good ideas are F**K it by Eamon and Kelis Caught out there) feel free to suggest others
2) Go for a run
3) Pray Pray Pray
4) Take a boxing class
5) Get a packet of lined college ruled paper rib it , stab it with pencils, throw it, and just lose control
6) Write poetry about it
7) Talk to the person about how you feel
8) No matter what do not take it out on other people

What are your tricks to deal with anger?

1 comment:

  1. When I'm mad about someone doing me wrong I...
    1 look in the mirror and tell myself all the positive things that I know to be true about myself, the things I know they can't see or the things they would see "IF" they really paid attention.
    2 I listen to happy music until I feel like dancing.
    3 I like to color in a coloring book. (lol)

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